"When we lack integrity, that's when we are most judgmental of other people, because we can't stand seeing in others what we don't like about ourselves. Only in the presence of compassion will people allow themselves to see the truth."
In the joy and pain of this mortal life, you will find most choices fall between love and addiction. Both will cost you your soul, but only one requires you to set ego aside and do real work on improving outcomes. Namasteeznuts.